My name is Mary, but most people call me Mimi. I’m a two-time cancer survivor and I just celebrated my 40th trip around the sun.

I’ve battled cancer and its effects for most of my life. I’m also an intuitive old soul who’s been telling stories since she could utter words, and probably even before then… I’ve learned and realized a lot during my time in the here and now, and I can tell you this:

I’m really good at a lot of things.
I’m also really bad at a lot of things.
I make lots of mistakes and beat myself up for decisions I regret in the moment.
I also wear five million hats and multi-task like a motherfucker, solving lots of other people’s problems without giving myself the guilt-free grace I deserve…
Here is where I talk about all of it.

Consider me the UNfluencer.

I started this blog in 2015 after I was diagnosed with cancer for the second time. I was 33-years-young, in the prime of my career, treating myself to luxuries and finally debt-free with a vision for my future. I was also in couple’s therapy, barely hanging on with my live-in boyfriend of five years, juggling a side hustle, anxiety ridden and sleep deprived from corporate responsibilities and pressures, developing body dysmorphia and desperately trying to achieve success by society’s standards.

Really, I was just desperate for that carefree “I’ve made it” look that rich, filtered and cosmetically modified people on social media have, but I wanted it to be authentic.

I was still in my 30s, thinking that because I’d survived my teens and 20s like a true rockstar – despite cancer’s odds – that I’d learned all there was to know about life, love and success.

My how times have changed… *gulps fourth shot of Jameson*

Nobody expects to have cancer twice, not even me who was in remission for nearly two decades before my second diagnosis… but that’s what inspired me to write, and once I started, I couldn’t stop.

And it mattered… not just to me, but to so many others that I never imagined I could impact. And that touched me in a truly authentic and powerful way. I realized my ripple effect, and I didn’t care whether it looked pretty and glossy… I wanted others to know that they weren’t alone in their silent struggles, like not even a little bit.

I’ve come to realize that i’ve spent my 40 years on Earth living in survival mode. I’ve accomplished a lot… but it’s been in the face of force, controversy and setbacks.

I’m ready to start a new chapter. And DAMN does it feel good to type that and really mean it.

This blog is intended to guide, make you think and act, but NOT intended to treat. It’s raw, real, relatable, a judgement-free zone (that commands the same courtesy from followers), educational, entertaining, emotional, filthy in the best ways and at times riddled with language that at 40 my mom still scolds me about… and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Love always,

about me pic
Photo Credit: Mattson Photographers

13 thoughts on “My life in a nutshell… the UNfluencer

  1. Go get em Mary. You hang in there and know that you will be in my thoughts & prayers today & all throughout this ordeal. Luv to you my dearest sweetheart, Deb Rottingen (Laceys Mumzy). XOXO


  2. Been there done that twice as well…Glad to see you are moving forward with a good attitude. It is a stupid disease all the way around. I let mine “refine” me but not “define” me. Sending positive thoughts and prayers your way…

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